Brian Dowling: Our battles over surrogacy or adoption made me angry

Brian Dowling and her husband Arthur Gourounlian said they found it difficult to start a family in Ireland because of their sexuality.

he couple announced on Thursday that they are expecting their first child later this year and revealed that their surrogate is currently in her second trimester.

The Big Brother star said he sought help from friends and family members who had already gone through the surrogacy process.

“I know we called some people in Ireland, and they didn’t even carry on a conversation with us. I remember calling someone and they were like ‘no, we don’t do that’ because it’s two men,” he said.

“We were lucky enough to go somewhere else and it was all amazing because I think as individuals you want to start and say are we healthy enough, can we have kids?”

“But to be shut down right now just…because you’re in a same-sex relationship and you’re married and you’re gay.”

The Dancing With The Stars judge added, “Without even letting us know…as soon as you said gay, the word gay, it was completely different.”

Mr Dowling said the couple had wanted to start a family since 2018. Currently, there are no laws governing domestic or international surrogacy in Ireland.

“I think our community members are vulnerable when they go to countries where things aren’t done right and people are exploited,” he told Amy Huberman on the Mamia & Me podcast. from Aldi.

“We are lucky to have been guided to go to the right places. When you’re isolated and told to leave, you’re not welcome, it pushes people to take other paths they might not want.

“But people want families and just because we’re gay, who decides ‘Oh you can’t have a family because we don’t do that here’? It’s just ridiculous.”

Mr Gourounlian said the couple were considering the idea of ​​adopting from Ireland but it was ‘so difficult’.

Dowling said, “We had two conversations and then we didn’t because the attitude was all gay again.”

Mr Gourounlian said he was told in 2020 that “it’s going to be very hard, there are no children to adopt”.

“I got a little angry, not in a bad way, where it’s like I could save a child’s life, I’m here to give it my all and I can’t. I was very upset, but it’s like you can’t have it,” he said.

The couple both shared the happy news in a video on Instagram on Thursday and wrote: “It fills our hearts completely to be able to reveal that we are pregnant and thanks to our beautiful bundle of joy later this year.

“In fact, we never thought this day would be a reality for us. We realize and fully understand how lucky and blessed we are to have this happen.

“For many of us and especially members of our community, we need to fight harder and push harder for what others see as something that can be easily achieved.

“Me and Arthur have kept the biggest secret for the past few months, but it has put the biggest smiles in our hearts and on our faces.

“We can’t wait to meet you, hug you, and love you for the rest of our lives. Baby Dowling Gourounlian is on people’s way.”

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